Principle 1: Sex Education Is the Shaping of Character
We have been discussing this principle already. If we are going to get this right, we must understand what we are doing. Many parents mistakenly think that sex education primarily is about providing information—biological information. No wonder we shy away from the task! We don’t have college degrees in sexuality and biology, so how can we even get started?
But sex education, above all else, is about shaping a child’s character. Giving them information is part of that, but only a part. We must also shape the values and attitudes of our kids, shape their world-view, provide children with the emotional strength they will need to make godly decisions, and instill in them the skills to implement the good decisions they make. Most importantly, their behavior will spring from their hearts, which will be formed by their personal relationship and devotion to God. Thus influencing their spiritual growth must be a top priority. In the next chapter we give you a way of thinking about your child’s character that help you understand how to shape your child’s character; we build on this throughout this book. How your child responds to pressure to experiment with sex at age fifteen or to view pornography at age thirteen will have less to do with the biology they know, and more to do with their moral character and strength. The job of building their character belongs first and foremost with you as the parent.