Sex Ed: Model Dialogue Breast Feeding

Parents are often daunted by the prospect of being asked questions they can’t answer. To deal with this concern, we suggest first you be prepared to say, “Well, I don’t know the answer to that, but how about if I try to find out and tell you in the next few days?” Then it’s vital that you follow through with that commitment. Second, we suggest you be listening for the opportunity to instruct the child from God’s perspective on sexuality. The questions most likely to stump you are the detailed questions about the functioning of the human body and the miracle of reproduction. Remember, this is the type of information least likely to really matter to your children in the long run. What really matters is the sexual character you are helping to build. When a child asks a question, never miss the opportunity to build character by sharing God’s perspective, even if you don’t know the factual answer to the question.

Five-year-old Billy raises a perplexing question after seeing his younger sister nurse.

CHILD: Dad, how do a mother’s breasts make milk?

PARENT: You know, I really don’t understand it myself. I know every woman has little things called milk glands or ducts in her breasts that make the milk. I guess they take water, protein, sugar, and other things the baby needs out of the mother’s blood and mix them together in a new way to make the milk. What amazes me is that God made women so that the milk they make for their babies is the perfect food for them. It’s one of God’s ways to show His love for the baby by taking such good care of him or her.”

CHILD: What do you mean, it’s the perfect food?

PARENT: Well, did you know that during the first few days after a baby is born, the mother’s breasts don’t make milk at all. They make a liquid that is like medicine for the baby. This helps make it much harder for the baby to catch any sickness. That stuff protects the baby. After that, the mother’s milk is better for the baby than anything else. Cow milk is perfect for cow babies, goat milk for goat babies, and human milk for human babies. Each kind of milk gives that kind of baby just what the baby needs. God knows so well how to take care of us perfectly; that’s why it is so important that we trust what He tells us in the Bible. God loves us and wants to make our lives good.