Biblical Foundations: Parenting God’s Way
Christian parents have a wonderful opportunity to prepare their children to experience God’s best in the area of sexuality. Parents are capable of being wonderful and effective sex educators; they just need some advice, encouragement, information, and help to get there. That’s what this book provides, along with the four children’s books in the God’s Design for Sex series that go along with it.
How do we achieve this goal of godly sex education? Parents rightly want help from our churches and schools, but we cannot abdicate such an important task to these organizations. The primary responsibility belongs to us. How do we do it? What are we to do? Here, again, many Christian parents think too small. We think of sex education in terms of “THE TALK,” the single dramatic sex talk with the early teen. Clearly, one or even several focused sex talks with a twelve or fourteen year old cannot turn the tide. Wherever they turn, our children are inundated with messages and “programming” about sexuality, all pointing them in the wrong direction. Can one talk counteract all of the destructive messages they receive? No.
Here is our vision: That children grow up with godly, age-appropriate discussion and teaching about sexuality as a regular part of their relationship with their parents. Why? Because parents are God’s agents for shaping the sexual character of their children. And we believe that parent and child both can trust God’s wisdom about our sexuality throughout their lives, because that wisdom is given for our good. Listen to two of the most important passages in the Bible about parenting, and about the beauty of God’s commandments:
“These are the commands, decrees and laws the Lord your God directed me to teach you to observe in the land that you are crossing the Jordan to possess, so that you, your children and their children after them may fear the Lord your God as long as you live by keeping all his decrees and commands that I give you, and so that you may enjoy long life. Hear, O Israel, and be careful to obey so that it may go well with you and that you may increase greatly in a land flowing with milk and honey, just as the Lord, the God of your fathers, promised you.”
“Hear, O Israel: the Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.” (Deuteronomy 6:1-9, emphasis added)
“And now, O Israel, what does the Lord your God ask of you but to fear the Lord your God, to walk in all his ways, to love him, to serve the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul, and to observe the Lord’s commands and decrees that I am giving you today for your own good?” (Deuteronomy 10:12-13, emphasis added)
Parents are to shape children to become followers of the true God, to worship God in love and obedience. We are to do so trusting that God’s commands are for our own good and are a source of blessing. Sex education is about making this great vision a reality in the area of sexuality.